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- [The Four Children](https://hasidah.org/the-four-children/): The Four Children are coming. It used to bother me that it was four sons. What about the daughters? Now it bothers me that I have no children.  I’d instruct my children if I had them. Wicked, wise, simple, unable to ask or otherwise. I’d tell them about the Exodus. I’d tell them how I called out to God to stop the punishment. How I saw signs and wonders. I thought the plagues were for the Egyptians, but it seemed I experienced a few too. It’s not the same, I know. I am not a slave. I am the four […]
- [Anachrobama Purim](https://hasidah.org/anachrobamapurim/): There was once a king in a not so far away land whose name was Lomusag. He generally ruled on his whims and was surrounded by other men who pleased, teased and entertained him. One day while at leisure, the king was admiring how his kingdom was growing in size and population. His advisors chided him that perhaps he did not know women were making decisions to end pregnancies and therefore reducing the population in his kingdom. They laughed that the women were more powerful than he. He boasted that he alone would be the one to determine who ends […]
- [Why are you Hiding? #Purim](https://hasidah.org/whyareyouhiding/): Purim is a holiday where everything is turned upside down.  Ruler’s are inept and common people lead. People and situations are not who or what they seem.  Masks came to represent the hidden themes of the story. The connection between Purim masks is often used today to talk about hidden identity or various private issues. This is true to the original story and to many modern issues. Infertility is something that involves a lot of hiding, but not in the way you may be thinking. You may go through your days giving Academy Award winning performances concealing from other people […]
- [Finding Higher Ground](https://hasidah.org/finding-higher-ground/): We’ve all had the moment(s). You are engrossed in something – working, exercising, conversing at a meal, folding the laundry while watching television – and all of the sudden a lightening bolt of a thought comes about trying to conceive. This is unfair. I can’t do this. This hurts! I’m scared. What if you never have a child?!? You didn’t see the storm coming. Now it seems like lightening everywhere and flooding rain pouring down, but your electric circuits – your mind, emotional state, body – are now on fire. Or fried. Or both at the same time. For sure […]
- [Your Super Power](https://hasidah.org/your-super-power/): One of the traditional ways to deal with difficult situations, it to read Psalms. Infertility, for sure, is a difficult situation. Yet it is not a moment. It is prolonged. For many people reading Psalms is not comforting because they are not written in today’s language and unless reading them is your practice, they are not familiar. When times get tough, we like the familiar. So bear with me a moment. There is one with a message for you. This is the text of Psalm 121, a psalm that is commonly read during challenging and sad times. This is my […]
- [Light, Darkness, Light](https://hasidah.org/light-darkness-light/): You are receiving this message right in the middle of the Jewish month of Kislev – the darkest month of the year. It is hard to even write that without thinking about the darkness that can seem stifling during infertility. It can feel like one long winter. And technically speaking, winter hasn’t started yet. Long dark days also means that the full moon, just finishing its peak, has the longest opportunity to shine. Alas, the moon doesn’t actually shine. The moon reflects the light of the sun. During the long dark nights, the moon is a reminder that somewhere the […]
- [Jewish Questions about Using Donors](https://hasidah.org/jewish-questions-about-using-donors/): Not many heterosexual people give too much thought to what using a donor to have children would be like. The use of a donor comes into the picture after experiencing infertility or receiving another diagnosis. For any one facing this decision, a lot of important questions to ask.  For Jewish people, however, there is an addition question: is the child considered Jewish? The answer is complicated. It depends on who you ask and how you ask  The answer if a child is considered Jewish at birth used to be – if the mother is Jewish, the baby is Jewish. What […]
- [A Different Perspective](https://hasidah.org/a-different-perspective/): Like so many others, we are grappling with the painful situation in Israel. Hasidah was founded to help people who want to bring more life into this world.  The violence that was enacted by Hamas against innocent Israelis seemed unfathomable, particularly to children and babies. Jewish history sadly has other similar examples – crusades, pogroms, the Holocaust and a host of other antisemitic incidents. That is no longer history. It is today. There is one more history lesson that precedes them all. When the Israelites were slaves in Egypt, their harshest punishment was when Pharoah ordered their newborn boys to […]
- [Sukkot, Abundance and Senseless Pursuits](https://hasidah.org/sukkot-abundance-and-senseless-pursuits/): The Harvest Festival of Sukkot is in the beginning of October this year. Not as widely observed as Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur, Sukkot has a lot of symbolism that can resonate with the experience of infertility. The unstable outdoor booths (Sukkot) that people live in represent the fragility of the material world. The biblical seven species are eaten to represent the hopefully abundant harvest (fertility). So if you just take away the idea that the world is both fragile and full of abundance, then please enjoy the fruits of the season and eat some figs, pomegranates, olives, dates, and […]
- [The Pregnancy Test](https://hasidah.org/the-pregnancy-test/): Fertility and infertility are generally not discussed.  Most individuals know few details about how the reproductive system works.  The whole topic can sometimes feel taboo. One issue that is not taboo but is not talked about is the pregnancy test. Trying to get pregnant is one topic, dealing with the results is another, but what about the moment of finding out? What happens then? Are you sitting in the bathroom? One the phone? The moments afterwards will be the first of your new life, forever changed. How do you want them to unfurl? Change and the distinction between before and […]
- [That Time Again #HHD2023](https://hasidah.org/that-time-again-hhd2023/): There are many themes within the Jewish High Holidays. The beginning of the year, God’s rule, and teshuva/repentance. What often gets over looked is the pervading theme of fertility and infertility. Whether you are a seasoned attendee of High Holiday services or celebrate with a holiday dinner with friends or family, the significance of the holidays are felt. Rosh Hashana, while generally uplifting, is full of references to infertility. Then there are the days that lead up to Yom Kippur and Yom Kippur itself, which are a little more intense and introspective. When experiencing infertility or other family building challenges, […]
- [The Infertile Label](https://hasidah.org/the-infertile-label/): Not many people are comfortable with the thought: I am infertile. That can feel harsh and limiting.  You are much more than any one part of your life. And to be defined by something you cannot do? Ouch! While infertility is significant, your ability to have a child is not your entire identity.  You are so much more. Another reason it may feel uncomfortable is because it carries stigma. Infertility is a medical diagnosis, but the term feels laden with negativity. Just a few decades ago people whispered the word cancer, as if it was contagious or shameful. Infertility is […]
- [Group Power](https://hasidah.org/group-power/): Over six combined years, I experienced infertility.  Mostly I muddle through by myself. So much of it was not good. Some would label the experience a success because I had children and I understand that way of thinking. But there were other failures along the way that cast a long shadow. A couple of years ago, I was facing another issue I just couldn’t seem to manage on my own. I shared bits about it with a friend and she suggested I attend a group program for people facing the same issue.  I signed up because I trusted her and […]
- [#LivingWithInfertility](https://hasidah.org/livingwithinfertility/): If you are reading this, you survived Mother’s Day. And sure enough, now comes Father’s Day. Of course you were going to survive and you will continue to survive, but the reality of infertility is that it may feel like so much effort just to survive.  There is no book  “Thriving During Infertility” or “How to Succeed at Infertility.”  But is it enough to just get through this? You deserve more than that. Have you ever seen those social media posts with catchy phrases about thriving and not just surviving? Thriving is no small feat when you are experiencing overwhelming […]
- [Managing Mother's Day](https://hasidah.org/managing-mothers-day/): This week is a special guest column by Madeline Licker Feingold, PhD Originally posted on the RSC Fertility Blog “On Mother’s Day I’m going to stay in bed with the sheets pulled over my head.” Every day is difficult for women who experience infertility, but Mother’s Day may be the most challenging of them all. Many women want to become mothers more than anything else and are emotionally devastated by problems with conceiving or carrying a pregnancy. Women often feel helpless and hopeless and frequently describe infertility as “the worst thing that’s ever happened” to them. For infertility sufferers Mother’s […]
- [Counting Yourself](https://hasidah.org/counting-yourself/): Counting days when you are young is often exciting. You count down to your birthday or the end of school. If you are experiencing infertility, you have likely counted days too and it was probably not so enjoyable. Days until ovulation, days after ovulation, days until a test, days waiting for results. Then there are the weeks (not to mention the months) and then treatments get involved… In traditional Jewish practice, the days between Passover and Shavuot are counted. In Temple times, an offering (the Omer) was brought every day. Today the only thing to do is just count the […]
- [Being Redeemed from Infertility](https://hasidah.org/being-redeemed-from-infertility/): On first glance Passover has nothing to do with (in)fertility. It’s about slavery in Egypt, God’s redemption, and the passage through the desert to join in covenant with God. On the other hand, (in)fertility is all over this holiday! How can anyone miss it? In addition to imposing hard labor, which is then made harder, Pharoah orders the drowning of the Hebrew slaves’ baby boys. To end a people, end their fertility. In addition to the long term issue that Pharaoh would ultimately be wiping out his own workforce, his plan backfires in the short term too. Shifra and Puah, […]
- [New #Hanukkah Resource Available](https://hasidah.org/new-hanukkah-resource-available/): A Hanukkah Miracle Hanukkah is associated with miracles, standing up in the face of opposition, and succeeding against the odds. The Maccabees, a small band of rebels, fought against the mighty Greek- Assyrian army and prevailed in the end. They returned to the Temple and lit the one day’s worth of oil, which then lasted for eight days. Jewish tradition focuses on God’s role in these miracles. Yet, the miracle of the Maccabees surely had something to do with their actions too. The outcome did not rest only in God’s hands. The involvement of people’s beliefs and actions is also […]
- [San Francisco Memory Garden #Miscarriage](https://hasidah.org/san-francisco-memory-garden-miscarriage/): Pregnancy loss is one of the most common losses women will experience, yet very little conversation happens about it and very little attention is given to it withing Jewish mourning practices. This used to be a protective measure to save people from endless mourning. While medical advances of the years may have made pregnancy safer, nothing lessens the grief of a pregnancy loss except to mourn it. Now the Bay Area Jewish community has a place for this. The Memorial Garden is a quiet sacred space for memorials, ceremonies and community ritual for pregnancy and infant loss. For some individuals, […]
- [My Path to Building My Own Jewish Family](https://hasidah.org/my-path-to-building-my-own-jewish-family/): Mariela Socolovsky: My Path to Building My Own Jewish Family A Note: I’ll be starting my maternity leave at the end of this week, on November 4th. I’m currently 38 weeks’  pregnant, but started writing this essay a bit before my 20th week of pregnancy. In my 20s, the “do not get pregnant” advice translated in my mind like a neon sign screaming at me everywhere. So, I did my best to not get pregnant. However, when in my 40s I decided that I was ready to start a family of my own, I never in my wildest dreams thought […]
- [An Interview with Founder Rabbi Idit Solomon](https://hasidah.org/an-interview-with-founder-rabbi-idit-solomon/):  Hear from Rabbi Solomon about what led her to start Hasidah, Hasidah’s vision, and infertility in the Jewish community.
- [Weeding out Fertility](https://hasidah.org/weeding-out-fertility/): A recent article in Epoch Times shared many research studies that pointed a finger at the use of agricultural fertilizer (e.g RoundUp) with higher rates of infertility. Some of it is directly linked, and most of it is a very understandable, like the A=B, B=C so A=C. These ties include lower rates of testosterone, disrupted hormones, and rates of Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), which is one of the leading causes for infertility. One doctor is quoted as saying, “The fact that environmental toxins are affecting fertility is no secret.” It is not a secret. The National Institute of Health has […]
- [Holidays, family gathers and other risky social situations](https://hasidah.org/holidays-family-gathers-and-other-risky-social-situations/): By Rabbi Idit Solomon Holidays can be wonderful. Meaningful traditions, connecting with family and friends, and symbolic foods. Family gatherings sometimes are the highlight of the year. They can also be trigger-filled stress fests that have you walking on pins and needles and wanting full body (and soul) armor to protect yourself from the shrapnel of well-meaning people. Here are a few basic tips intended not just to get you through these events, but hopefully to give you tools to stay whole and present during these holiday celebrations. With practice, you may even be able to recover quickly from any […]
- [Empty Space: Reflections on #PregnancyLoss](https://hasidah.org/empty-space-reflections-on-pregnancyloss/): Going outside helps me journey inside my mind and soul. The stillness of nature allows me to tune in and listen to the thoughts and feelings that are buried under the chaos of everyday life. Several months ago I had the blessing to spend a few quiet moments in a nature reserve with majestic redwood trees. I expected to be overcome with awe while witnessing these tremendous trees, but was caught off guard by what the trees brought out in me. The gigantic redwood trees invited me in, protected me and made me feel small and humble. In particular, I […]
- [Practice #SelfForgiveness this #YomKippur](https://hasidah.org/practice-selfforgiveness-this-yomkippur/): Yom Kippur, Hawaii and Infertility Self-blame is often an uninvited guest at an infertility experience. It sometimes tags along with curiosity. Is this because I was on birth control pills? Sometimes it just walks in the front door. I waited too long. I didn’t take care of my body. I didn’t eat well. Other times you don’t see it come in and it is just there. I must deserve this. Yom Kippur is an entire day for the Jewish people to confess all their mistakes to God, make amends, and return to better ways. The Hebrew word for this is […]
- [Happy Passover 2021](https://hasidah.org/happy-passover-2021/): “Passover” is known by four names – the Festival of Freedom, Passover, the Festival of Matzah and the Spring Holiday. These four names are linked to four spiritual levels. The Feast of Freedom represents our physical freedom. Passover (sacrifice/shank bone) represents the ability to rise above our animal needs and do the right thing. The Festival of Matzah is about our intellectual freedom, our ability to let go and think expansively (think yeast that rises). The last and highest level is Hag HaAviv, the Spring Holiday when the earth comes back to life, which represents our freedom from fear leading […]
- [#ReproShabbat - Protecting All Reproductive Care](https://hasidah.org/reproshabbat-protecting-all-reproductive-care/): The term reproductive rights has too often become synonymous with abortion rights. “Reproductive rights” are not seen as such in Judaism. A more expansive view of reproductive rights is important for understanding Judaism’s stance on the issue. It is also essential because Jewish views include the painfully overlooked population of those facing infertility and other family building challenges. The first reason to expand beyond reproductive rights is because Judaism has historically focused on obligations above rights. The Jewish approach to the American focus on rights is almost always on how rights protect a Jewish person’s ability to perform their obligations, […]
- [Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month](https://hasidah.org/pregnancy-infant-loss-awareness-month/): #BabyLoss #PregnancyLoss #Miscarriage #Infertility October is the month we remember, share and grieve. The public sharing of the struggles so many have with experienced pregnancy and infant loss  are important. Too often images of beautiful families make it look like it was all so easy to get there. A recent article about Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan bursts that myth and sheds light on reality. They too experienced multiple miscarriages and infertility fears along their path to parenthood. Another important point is that the stories more often are told AFTER the family has received good news. Many people are right […]
- [Spiritual Care During Covid-19 (2)](https://hasidah.org/spiritual-care-during-covid-19-2/): The COVID19 pandemic came at an interesting time on the Jewish calendar. Something very important can be learned from this. The period of time between Passover, celebrating the Exodus from Egypt, and Shavuot, celebrating receiving Torah at Mount Sinai, is a time of counting. Bundles of wheat were brought to the Temple. The portion was called an Omer. To count the seven weeks of seven days from Passover to Shavuot was also counting the Omer – the offerings brought as part of the harvest holidays. Over time these seven weeks gained mystical significance. Each week was identified with a different […]
- [Spiritual Care During Covid-19](https://hasidah.org/spiritual-care-during-covid-19/): COVID -19 RESPONSE Dealing with uncertainly, unknowns and lack of control is familiar to people facing infertility and family building challenges. Many other medical conditions and life circumstances also can put us in this state of unknown uncertainty. However, having it experienced on a global level, being sheltered at home, and having limited access to healthcare is something very new. While the lack of information is confusing and stressful, one way we can help ourselves move forward is recognizing that sometimes the best we can do is to make decisions based on what we know now. We cannot always wait […]
- [COVID-19, infertility, and pregnancy planning](https://hasidah.org/covid-19-infertility-and-pregnancy-planning/): See ASRM press release on managing infertility therapy. Infertility is isolating and traumatizing on its own. With the COVID-19 spread now a pandemic, people dealing with infertility and other family building challenges face new questions. Read on for some answers: COVID-19: Suggestions On Managing Patients Who Are Undergoing Infertility Therapy Or Desiring Pregnancy Mar 12, 2020 By: ASRM Origin: ASRM Bulletin/Press Release As the novel coronavirus disease (COVID-19) spreads around the world and throughout the USA, our professional community and policymakers, and the public in general, are seeking advice regarding how to manage patients who are undergoing or who are […]
- [Two New Years?](https://hasidah.org/two-new-years/): By guest columnist Dr. Karen Wasserstein What to do with another New Year? Being Jewish, I celebrate two New Years. Is it lucky to have two New Years or is it unlucky? My family and I fully celebrate Rosh Hashanah as the Jewish New Year. We spend the month ahead of time talking about it, shopping and cooking for it, wishing everyone we see a Happy New Year. We greet each other with hopes for a year of growth, prosperity and blessing and readily accept those blessings in return. We wish each other a Shana Tova Umtukah, that we should […]
- [Facing Fertility Challenges in the Jewish Community](https://hasidah.org/facing-fertility-challenges-in-the-jewish-community/): By Terry Friedkin This column originally appeared in The Jewish News of Northern California , November 12, 2019   Several months ago, I was asked to speak at an event for Hasidah, a Berkeley-based nonprofit that “raises awareness of infertility, connects people to support resources and reduces financial barriers to [fertility] treatment in the Jewish community,” according to its website. I so wish my family had known about this agency’s work when we were struggling with these issues. I care about helping build Jewish families. So many of us take for granted that when we are ready to build a family […]
- [Weed, Alchohol and Infertility #NotAGoodCombo](https://hasidah.org/weed-alchohol-and-infertility-notagoodcombo/): A recent news piece from ABC news highlighted a study that found “When men smoke marijuana once a week or more, their partners are twice as likely to experience a miscarriage when pregnant, according to Boston University researchers who examined over 1,400 couples before they got pregnant” The study is not final because it was not able to show causation and did not have peer review. However, “The research comes just days after researchers in China released a study that found a father’s alcohol intake may actually affect a future child more than a mother’s intake.” More studies please. Here […]
- [How to Cope During the High Holidays](https://hasidah.org/how-to-cope-during-the-high-holidays/): Facing Tefillah, Community, and Family as a Couple Struggling with Fertility Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. It is a time of reflection, a time of spirituality. For many people, tefillah, community and family feel like a warm embrace. To others, such as those experiencing infertility, these can feel more like a straight jacket. I always ask my patients about their religious affiliation. Religion can be a tremendous comfort when someone is in pain, but it can also be a stressor. During the chaggim, it can be both to the couple experiencing infertility. If you are in this position, please try to understand how you feel, […]
- [Featured In Fast Company](https://hasidah.org/featured-in-fast-company/): The issue of who is funding IVF is a growing financial questions. A growing number of hopeful grandparents are getting involved. Fast Company looked further into fertility expenses and the role of grandparents with some input from Hasidah.    
- [The Old Fashioned Way](https://hasidah.org/the-old-fashioned-way/): In the US, we pride ourselves on the American dream of working hard and earning based on our merit. Our economy today, however, shows that many people who work hard are earning less and are not as well off as their parents. Truth be told, the real old fashioned way of earning money still works – inherit it. In addition to younger generations earning less, another difference that is becoming more evident is when having babies the old fashioned way doesn’t work either.  People are now turning to their parents to pay for infertility treatment. The Future Grandparents Club In […]
- [Like Stealing Candy...](https://hasidah.org/like-stealing-candy/): Doctors and health care providers are not to blame for an “infertility industrial complex” and patients are not baby crazed. Wanting to provide people with medical care that will help them have a baby is a noble profession and wanting to be a parent is really deep desire. There are exceptions, but or every doctor who may take advantage of a patient who didn’t do their research, there are scores of doctors feeling tied up trying not to raise false hopes. And for every patient that is beyond their boundaries trying anything and everything, there are many more trying to […]
- [The Mother of All Contests](https://hasidah.org/the-mother-of-all-contests/): #IVFContests #IVFAwareness #BuildJewish Families Another group held a video conference for a free IVF. This was a new twist however, because the host of the contest was a radio station in Utah. The ends of the contest – the chance for someone without the financial means to be able to receive treatment that may lead to having a baby – is a wonderful goal. An important question is if those ends justify the means. Unlike most coverage of these contests, a recent article reporting about this contest shared both sides of this story. The pro’s include building awareness about infertility, […]
- [Infertility Treatment Access is #NotEqual](https://hasidah.org/infertility-treatment-access-is-notequal/): Does your income potentially affect the chances that you will access treatment for infertility. In an already much cited article, the answer was a resounding yes. Education plays a role too. People with a college degree are more than twice as likely (11.6 vs 5) to access fertility treatment with those who do not have a high school diploma. The infertilty sword cuts both ways because those with less education are likely to earn less and be able to afford less and therefore be less likely to seek treatment. And while this recent study does not tie education to infertility, […]
- [#LessProcessedFoods #Fertility](https://hasidah.org/lessprocessedfoods-fertility/): According to the internet, just about everything effects fertility. This nut hurts your fertility, this fruit boosts your fertility.  Give your reproductive system some credit. It’s yours and yours alone and it is much more complex than that. However, there is something to be said about what we eat and our general health and its affects on our reproductive system. Check out this guest post by Dr. Laurence Jacobs for some  good health = good reproduction advice. Decreasing Your Consumption of Processed Foods  Everyone is busy these days, and our waistlines are suffering for it. The American diet relies heavily […]
- [#NotEndorsing #Just Saying](https://hasidah.org/notendorsing-just-saying/): It’s a great day to introduce new political platforms.  One area particularly open to change is support for building families. Today one candidate said that tax credits for adoption and insurance coverage for fertilty treatment like IVF would be instituted in her first 100 days. According to Politico, no Democratic candidate is currently opposing any of these suggestions which also includes pre-K childcare. Not opposing is not the same as endorsing. It is a beautiful and silent way of squashing legislation – just don’t endorse it. Since the primary races are starting early, this means we can start speaking up […]
- [Do I really have to answer that?? #FertilityQuestions](https://hasidah.org/do-i-really-have-to-answer-that-fertilityquestions/): The debate about questions and their stupidity is on-going. Dumb is subjective. Thoughtless or insensitive is a little more precise. Questions about people’s family planning are often in that category. In the Jewish tradition, the Talmud guides a lot of our behavior and provides guidelines for prioritizing situations. However,  Rav Abby, sister of Rabbi Landers, who might have been a cousin of Rabbi Manners have words of wisdom on this topic too.  They had a consistent approach which almost always applied to these questions: you are not required to answer someone else’s question. How do I answer when someone (fill […]
- [Support for Infertility in the Jewish Community](https://hasidah.org/support-for-infertility-in-the-jewish-community/): In honor of Passover  – removing chametz from our lives and leaving the narrow places – Hasidah invited several guest bloggers to provide support for dealing with infertility during the holiday and beyond. Guest blogger Alissa Hirshfeld-Flores, is a marriage and family therapist in Santa Rosa, CA Many Jewish holidays can evoke grief for women and couples experiencing infertility. Rosh Hashana brings the Torah stories of the matriarch Sarah, finally learning she’s pregnant in her old age, after struggling with infertility for decades, and of Hannah–who prays so fervently for a child that the priest Eli takes her for a […]
- [The Fifth Child #InfertilityAwareness](https://hasidah.org/the-fifth-child-infertilityawareness/):  As part of  Passover preparation – removing chametz from our lives and planning to leave the narrow places – Hasidah invited several guest bloggers to provide support for dealing with Infertility during the holiday and beyond. Dalia David is co-founder, choreographer and Education Director at Uprooted – A Jewish Communal Response to Fertility Journeys At the center of the Pesach Hagaddah, embedded in the reply to the ‘child who does not know how to ask’ is the instruction: וְִהַגְּדָתּ ְלִבנְךָ ההוּא ַבּיּוֹםַ (Exodus 8:13) and you shall tell your child on this day. This is the mitzvah of telling one’s […]
- [Tips and Resources for Dealing with Infertility #FertilityTips](https://hasidah.org/tips-and-resources-for-dealing-with-infertility-fertilitytips/): As part of  Passover preparation – removing chametz from our lives and planning to leave the narrow places – Hasidah invited several guest bloggers to provide support for dealing with Infertility during the holiday and beyond. Erin Schlozman is a licensed professional counselor specializing in women’s reproductive health at Mama Wellness Co. in Colorado In Judaism, we are told to “be fruitful and multiply.” We come from a tradition steeped heavily in a narrative filled with the promise of creating new life. How many of you were asked as soon as you broke the glass under the Chuppah: when are you […]
- [How Do You Share The Story?](https://hasidah.org/how-do-you-share-the-story/): As part of  Passover preparation – removing chametz from our lives and planning to leave the narrow places – Hasidah invited several guest bloggers to provide support for dealing with Infertility during the holiday and beyond. Aron Wolgel is an educator and infertility veteran based in Berkeley, CA. The excitement of Pesach is upon us! Many families are preparing for their seder, planning menus, arranging place settings, and studying texts that will help unlock new understandings of the traditional tale. Guided by the Haggadah, we are told –  כל המרבה בסיפור יציאת מצרים, הרי זה משובח – anyone who expands […]
- [The Fifth Child at The Seder](https://hasidah.org/the-fifth-child-at-the-seder/): Guest Blogger Julie Bindeman is a reproductive psychologist, speaker and author based in Rockville, MD One of the most familiar parts of the Passover Seder is the four sons/children. These children represent the different places in which people come to the Seder: knowing and wise; selfish (or wicked); simple (or not knowing); and the fourth is silent as he or she doesn’t know what to ask and is just taking everything in. However, this breakdown doesn’t include a fifth child missing from the Seder, whether we give voice to him or her or not. The fifth child is the child […]
- [#BabyBenefits Are All Business](https://hasidah.org/babybenefits-are-all-business/): Take the one with the best benefits. My dad gave me that advice when I was faced with the enviable position of choosing which job to accept after college. The advice struck me because it was not on my radar at all. It didn’t influence me much at the time, but it did in the long run. Benefits like health insurance, savings plans, and retirement plans become more important every year of our lives. Lately baby benefits are making news. They come with good intentions to be sure, but they are a privilege nonetheless. Baby benefits are a growing trend […]
- [Fertility Care is Good Policy](https://hasidah.org/fertility-care-is-good-policy/): Hurray for companies that are realizing support for family building is good for business! It’s quite an interesting position financially, socially, and economically for a business to show that supporting family creation is something worthwhile. The JewishStork has supported people who have chosen jobs and kept jobs because of access to insured fertility care. It is a growing factor for job choice and loyalty. The companies support a variety of ways to help families – from adoption, to screening, to IVF to family leave. Parents can actually contribute, families are a good thing, and supporting reproductive health is actually a […]
- [Reproductive Healthcare, Baby Guarantee or Roulette?](https://hasidah.org/reproductive-healthcare-baby-guarantee-or-roulette/): Many clinics are moving towards shared risk or money back programs for IVF. This approach is being used for couples or individuals who are facing an infertility diagnosis and are told that their best or maybe only way to address their medical issues is through an IVF procedure that may or may not work. To soften the blow for those who have a better than average prognosis, they are offered deals to refund all or part of their investment or given a flat rate for a certain number of tries. To be clear, this is not discussing a few hundreds […]
- [How to Respect When They are Not Expecting](https://hasidah.org/how-to-respect-when-they-are-not-expecting/): They always talked about having children, yet three years of marriage brought no babies. She was pregnant last year, but it ended in loss. Infertility and other family building challenges are quite common yet hardly ever discussed.  When these situations happen to someone you love, what can you do to help? Finding the balance of respecting privacy, breaking isolation and showing support can be a challenge. The best place to start is asking yourself some questions and checking assumptions. Below are some questions to guide your support for someone who is facing infertility or other family building challenges. 1) What […]
- [Does "Femtech" Help Or Exploit?](https://hasidah.org/does-femtech-help-or-exploit/): Helping or Exploiting? A good question indeed.  We have so much data, but can it really help us? How should data influence are decisions? Will we get different outcomes? Where is the link between big data statistics and actual outcomes? What about when it isn’t accurate? What will it take into account? Are we just more overwhelmed with the information and options? A recent article asks these questions about an upcoming company that is taking big data to the world of reproduction and infertility. Whether this company in specifics or the idea in general, we have good reason to be […]
- [Hasidah Goes to Vegas!](https://hasidah.org/hasidah-goes-to-vegas/): Rabbi Idit Solomon facilitated a training in Las Vegas for Rabbis and other Jewish professionals who work with young adults including Jewish Family Services Agency. Participants learned about issues people face when struggling with infertility. They explored the emotional and spiritual trials that come up and how to address them as well as ways to make their community more sensitive and inclusive. Thanks to the Las Vegas Board of Rabbis and Jewish Family Services Association for your support! “Hasidah brings the all-too-common hidden heartache of infertility into the daylight of informed conversation and educated support.” “This training is vital for […]
- [How To Make Good Fertility Treatment Decisions](https://hasidah.org/how-to-make-good-fertility-treatment-decisions/): One of the hallmarks of a good decision is whether it takes into account all of the information available at the time it is made. Hindsight is always challenging when circumstances change or values change. Feeling good about a decision is not thinking you can know everything there is to know. Good decisions come when you know you did a reasonably appropriate job of considering the factors necessary and addressing them. Why is this important in the fertility world? Because most people’s biggest decision for conception is if the it will involve red or white wine, or if the occasion […]
- [#FamilyBuildingReality](https://hasidah.org/familybuildingreality/): One had an adoption fall through. One has a surrogate that is pregnant. One had a failed transfer and is awaiting next steps. Two are pregnant. Two have unknown diagnoses. This is just the check on Tuesday for the week. The stories and circumstances are as unique as each human being. Please God, the ultimate parent of us all, grant each one of them strength to endure and bring compassion and kindness into their lives.
- [What Would You Give Up To Have A Baby?](https://hasidah.org/what-would-you-give-up-to-have-a-baby/): Some things are just human and it doesn’t seem to matter much where you live. Facing challenges to building a family might be one of them.  A recent survey in England got the following stats from people struggling to become parents. 90% say infertility feels like a trauma. 94% don’t think their friends, family or colleagues really understand what they are going through 55% feel hopeless and like a failure 68% believe other people think less of them because they do not have a child. 54% feel annoyed by other people’s comments 37% feeling angered by what others say Healthcare […]
- [Welcome Johanna!](https://hasidah.org/welcome-johanna/): Hasidah is delighted to welcome Johanna Meckel as our new Outreach and Development Coordinator. Johanna joined Hasidah with appreciation for its mission to help people in the Jewish community who are facing challenges building their family. She has worked at Hillel and Stand With Us and brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to this position. Johanna will be developing Hasidah’s Baby Registry (Double Chai) program and building awareness about family building challenges in the Jewish community. Welcome Johanna!
- [Does Marijuana Affect Fertility?](https://hasidah.org/does-marijuana-affect-fertility/): Marijuana is not an uncommon substance among today’s women of childbearing age. Many states have legalized the drug for medical use (Illinois made medical marijuana legal in 2013), and several have legalized for recreational use, and many patients have questions about marijuana usage. Studies have found that marijuana is one of the drugs most commonly used by pregnant women; in fact, urine samples from about 300,000 pregnant women in California showed that more than 7 percent of them had marijuana in their systems. Another study found that pregnant women with severe nausea and vomiting were almost four times more likely […]
- [The Human Right to Have a Child](https://hasidah.org/the-human-right-to-have-a-child/): Published by Truah: The Rabbinic Call for Human Rights Commentary on Rosh Hashanah Torah and Haftarah readings September 4, 2018 By Rabbi Idit Solomon Reproductive rights have been hijacked. When someone mentions the phrase “reproductive rights,” the first things that usually come to mind are either birth control or abortion. However, the ability to prevent pregnancy is only part of reproductive rights. What about the right to have a child? This conversation has fallen by the wayside. Ironically, every year at Rosh Hashanah, Jews assert the centrality of having children, and we would do a great service to the world […]
- [Wannabe Grandparents Beware](https://hasidah.org/wannabe-grandparents-beware/): A recent article in the Atlantic gave a wonderful introduction about advice for grandparents who want to ask their children about their family planning activities. The summary was don’t ask. It’s worth stopping here to read this if you are a hopeful future grandparent or are currently facing fertility challenges and thinking about your parents. Here is it again. One premise of the article was that the would-be grandparents are wannabe grandparents and that the asking is therefore self serving. When am I getting grandchildren? In that circumstance, the asking amounts to pressure and of course is completely unwanted. However, […]
- [Hasidah couple featured in local news](https://hasidah.org/hasidah-couple-featured-in-local-news/): Kentucky Derby, fairy tale massacres, and the trials of infertility. Learn more about Hasidah’s grant recipients Benji and Lisa as they share about their experience. Thanks to JewishLouisville.org for their research into infertility in the Jewish community and shedding light on this topic! Louisville couple sheds light on trials of fertility treatment
- [Making babies... is innovative!](https://hasidah.org/making-babies-is-innovative/): “Among the myriad programs supporting the next generation, Hasidah is the leader in actually building it.” It would seem natural that the first commandment, be fruitful and multiple, that one of our most basic human drives, to reproduce, would be front and center in the Jewish community for support and financial aide. Yet it has not been. Hasidah is removing the shroud around infertility, bringing support and financial resources to people facing fertility challenges, and ultimately building Jewish families. One baby at a time. Hasidah is proud to have been selected as one of the most innovative Jewish organizations in […]
- [The Big Freeze](https://hasidah.org/the-big-freeze/): Is egg freezing a good thing? A recent article in the Forward by Amy Klein explores the personal stories of a growing number of Jewish women considering egg freezing. Egg freezing  is empowering for some, a relief for others and scary for others. For cancer patients it ought to be a given option.  For the general population, however, more questions are in order. Egg freezing may add to the societal pressure on women’s bodies. We cannot treat women’s bodies as machines that can simply have parts temporarily preserved. As with all technologies that have the potential for good, society needs […]
- [A New Resource for The Jewish Community](https://hasidah.org/a-new-resource-for-the-jewish-community/): Many find mikveh to be a place of healing and rejuvenation. Being part of the practice of for married women to immerse in a mikvah after menstruation before have relations with her husband, mikveh is intimately tied to fertility. However, for those experiencing fertility challenges, it can be a painful reminder that conception has not occurred. Our partners at Yesh Tikvah have recently worked with the Eden Center to produce a booklet called “Birkat Emunah: A Mikvah Resource” (the title means “Blessing of Faith”), which provides prayers (in Hebrew and English), practical suggestions and personal stories to help women gain […]
- [Help me fund a chance to have a baby!](https://hasidah.org/help-fund-chance-baby/): Hasidah’s name which means “stork” comes from the Hebrew word hesed, which means loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is showing support when people need it in the way they need it. Loving-kindness is maintaining their dignity while they are in need and in the process of helping them. Loving-kindness is helping them without making them beg for it.  Every one of these baby crowd funding campaigns is a lost opportunity for the Jewish community to show loving-kindness, something we do so well for many other circumstances. Wanting to have a child is a basic desire that most of us understand without much explanation. […]
- [How Couples Cope](https://hasidah.org/how-couples-cope/): So often fertility journeys are marked by the ups and downs in couple’s relationships. Coping with trials can strain even the best of relationships and fertility is far from an exception. Everyone copes differently and will be on different timelines. What advice has helped you stay connected with your partner during fertility struggles? Check out this article by one woman who recounts her story and what helped her manage some of the strain in her relationship.  
- [There is still time!](https://hasidah.org/there-is-still-time/): Did you want to apply for a Hasidah grant and somehow things didn’t quite come together? The application deadline has been extended until January 25th. Contact us ASAP if you need assistance. 415.323.3226 or info@hasidah.org
- [Headline Ransom](https://hasidah.org/headline-ransom/): Ever see that headline that addresses a question that’s been nagging at you? When you are struggling with infertility, a lot of things are nagging at you. Is there something I could be doing differently to resolve this? Did I forget to ask a question? Is there a treatment or method I don’t know that could help? And headlines can answer questions – or create questions – you never knew you had. Here is a sample of some (not all) headlines that came out about a recent study. I took the liberty to highlight what I learned just by reading […]
- [New Years Babies](https://hasidah.org/new-years-babies/): Babies.   I’m thinking about babies. I’m seeing babies every day on Facebook. Babies being born to friends and wonderful former Hillel students. Babies being held by older siblings in those adorable posts that make us wish every day with kids was so smiley.   I’m also thinking about all the babies that are in people’s hearts and dreams and yet to come into this world.   I founded Hasidah four years ago because I had those dreams. I wished so deeply that the Jewish community had some kind of support to help me on my difficult journey toward child-having. […]
- [A Time to be Born - A Sukkot Message](https://hasidah.org/a-time-to-be-born-a-sukkot-message/): Traditionally called the Season of Joy, Sukkot is inherently wrapped in fertility. Historically and religiously associated with agriculture, Sukkot is a harvest festival celebrating the fertility of the earth. Living in booths (Sukkot) commemorates the Israelite’s wanderings in the desert. Their temporary and unstable nature also reminds of of how fragile our lives and the world is. The special reading done for this holiday is from Kohelet, which begins, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under the heaven. A time to be born, a time to die…” Fertility and the fragility are related. Those […]
- [What genetic testing can tell you (or not) about your embryo.](https://hasidah.org/what-genetic-testing-can-tell-you-or-not-about-your-embryo/): In this very clearly written article, Dr. David Adamson from ARC fertility explains the different genetic tests performed on embryos during in vitro fertilization (IVF).  Many people think that this testing is a guarantee or insurance. It is neither. However, it can be instrumental in improving chances of IVF success and protecting children from deadly and debilitating diseases. Understanding it better is very helpful for the many who can benefit from its use on their IVF journey. Read all about it in his Huffington post article.  
- [Infertility and the Unknown](https://hasidah.org/infertility-and-the-unknown/): When couples struggle with fertility challenges, things can feel more unhinged. We are told by our faith to “go forth and multiply” or that sex on the Sabbath is a mitzvah. The frustration and self-doubt that creeps in when couples try to honor these teachings, and are unable to create new life can be deep. Inherently, there is a sense of shame that many couples experience when they are unable to fulfill their dreams of parenthood, and often times, this struggle is kept silent.
- [Who is the best doctor for you?](https://hasidah.org/who-is-the-best-doctor-for-you/): Do Your Research when Choosing Your Fertility Doctor Treatment for infertility is not only expensive; it is emotionally draining as well. You may have to select a fertility clinic, or you may be referred to one and then have to choose among several different doctors. The right fertility doctor to be your partner throughout this process is one of the most important decisions you can make. Choosing the doctor who puts you and your partner at ease places you on the best path for a successful pregnancy. Consider the standard things such as IVF success rates, years in practice and […]
- [Mazal tov @FertilityIQ and @ResolveOrg for helping inform people about fertility. Noted: Biggest barrier to treatment still is #IVFCost. http://www.prweb.com/releases/2017/07/prweb14500241.htm](https://hasidah.org/mazal-tov-fertilityiq-and-resolveorg-for-helping-inform-people-about-fertility-noted-biggest-barrier-to-treatment-still-is-ivfcost/)
- [Adoption: A Conversation With Some Experts](https://hasidah.org/adoption-a-conversation-with-some-experts/): Just hosted the National Jewish Fertility Network video conference about adoption.
- [No Silver Bullet](https://hasidah.org/no-silver-bullet/): Lots of news articles and social media posts say what to do to combat infertility,
- [#NIAW2017 Infertility Does Not Discriminate](https://hasidah.org/niaw2017-infertility-does-not-discriminate/): The statistic for infertility of 1 in 8 does not really care about race, religion, gender,
- [@Kveller interviews @JewishStork founder Idit Solomon](https://hasidah.org/kveller-interviews-jewishstork-founder-idit-solomon/): The latest article featuring the great work that Hasidah is doing!
- [@JewishStork published in @jdforward - Rabbi Addressing Costs of Infertility in the Jewish Community](https://hasidah.org/jewishstork-published-in-jdforward-rabbi-addressing-costs-of-infertility-in-the-jewish-community/): The Forward published this article by Hasidah’s CEO, Rabbi Idit Solomon  
- [South Carolina Considering Fertility Treatment Insurance Mandate](https://hasidah.org/south-carolina-considering-fertility-treatment-insurance-mandate/): Do you live in South Caroline? This is progress. Make the call. http://counton2.com/2017/03/07/lawmakers-file-bill-to-require-health-insurance-coverage-for-infertility-after-advocates-push-for-change/
- [Hasidah Opens New Cycle for IVF Grants and Loans](https://hasidah.org/hasidah-opens-new-cycle-for-ivf-grants-and-loans/): Hasidah has opened a new cycle and is currently accepting applications for in vitro fertilization (IVF) grants and loans. Funding is available for people in the Jewish community, throughout the United States, who require IVF in order to have children and need financial assistance for treatment. The deadline for applications is Thursday, March 30. Interested parties should visit https://hasidah.org/financial-resources/grants-and-loans/ for application information. Hasidah is the voice of hope and compassion that raises awareness of infertility, connects people to support, and reduces financial barriers to treatment in the Jewish community. Now in its third year of operation, Hasidah has previously completed […]
- [Hasidah and The Red Stone provide family building grants in Washington DC Area](https://hasidah.org/hasidah-and-the-red-stone-provide-family-building-grants-in-washington-dc-area/): Many in the Jewish community imagine building their family and the magical moments along the way. For some, however, having a child is difficult and those magical moments fade and are replaced by strains of saving for medical treatments or adoption expenses. In a joint effort between The RedStone and Hasidah, three grants have been awarded in the Washington DC area Jewish community to help alleviate some of the financial stress that comes with medical interventions or adoption expenses. To be fruitful and multiply is considered the first Jewish commandment in the Torah. Much of the Jewish community is organized […]
- [@JewishStork gives @AmericanExpress high marks for family leave policy.](https://hasidah.org/jewishstork-gives-americanexpress-high-marks-for-family-leave-policy/): American Express just increased their family leave policies to include 20 weeks of parental leave and $35,000 for infertility treatment. Way to go creating a nice work environment, loyal employees and  and be happier families!
- [When Isaac speaks - Infertility and a Spiritual Awakening](https://hasidah.org/when-isaac-speaks-infertility-and-a-spiritual-awakening/): In today’s speak-up, tell-it-like-it-is, immediate response world, the power of what is not said and the context in which messages are delivered can sometimes be overlooked. This is especially true when someone is carrying a silent burden such as infertility. This week’s Torah portion (Toldot) provides a vivid example of how noticing those nuances reveal an incredibly moving story of a personal spiritual awakening. The Torah portion begins with two brief lines introducing Isaac as Abraham’s son who married Rebecca at age 40 and then says, “And Isaac entreated God for his wife, because she was barren; and God let […]
- [Hasidah featured in @EJPhil](https://hasidah.org/hasidah-featured-in-ejphil/): The voice advocating for infertility support is growing. Please read the latest in EJewish Philanthropy.    
- [$500 Washington DC Area Fertility Grants](https://hasidah.org/500-washington-dc-area-fertility-grants/): FINAL CALL FOR APPLICATIONS! Co-sponsored by The Red Stone and Hasidah, four $500 grants for individuals and couples in the Washington DC area for fertility and adoption related expenses are available. Applications can be downloaded at www.theredstone.org and are due November 2 (paperwork from doctors/adoption agencies can come later). Email amy@theredstone.org with questions.
- [Days of Awe](https://hasidah.org/days-of-awe/): The days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are called the Days of Awe. They are traditionally filled with reflection as we prepare to stand before God On Yom Kippur in judgement of our actions. The “awe” in Hebrew is meant to capture both the amazement and the fear of standing before God.   These days are reminiscent of the waiting period endured between fertility treatments and the following pregnancy test. The time is filled with a mix of awe about what might be happening, a heavy dose of fear that the intervention did not work, and sometimes a gnawing […]
- [#MothersDay Message](https://hasidah.org/mothersday-message/): On the last night of Passover, the participants at the retreat I attended shared reflections on Passover themes. What were our journeys? What made us feel liberated? One woman, while describing the diversity of participants in our newly formed community, referred to me as a nursing mother. Me? Ironically, moments earlier I had leaned over to my husband and recalled how the first of many IVF treatments in our fertility journey occurred the day before Passover Seder. Our Seder that year was minimal but hopeful as I lay on the couch on bed rest. The hope ended when I had […]
- [#IVFOverview - Great Introduction by @RachelGurevich](https://hasidah.org/ivfoverview-great-introduction-by-rachelgurevich/): This recently posted article is a great overview of IVF for those considering treatment or for those wanting to understand what others are going through. This step by step summary explains a typical cycle and gives some examples of the variations involved too.  
- [Infertile and Pregnant](https://hasidah.org/infertile-and-pregnant/): Hasidah’s founder and CEO, Rabbi Idit Solomon,  has an article published in Kveller. Many people assume that once someone is pregnant the pain of infertility is gone. This well received post explores how the effects of infertility continue even after pregnancy is achieved For more information on the topic and additional support resources, see this wonderful article at OurBodiesOurselves.
- [#NoQuickFix for #Infertility](https://hasidah.org/noquickfix-for-infertility/): Headlines: – Too much green tea may lead to infertility. – A handful of walnuts is the secret to better sperm. – Avocados may increase fertility. If you have been diagnosed with infertility or are experiencing other fertility challenges and are looking for a quick fix keep looking. Perhaps editors think a catchy title will get more readers or worse, authors think they have a solution, but most of these articles are not worth reading. Fertility is complicated. Infertility can be caused by hundreds if not thousands of combinations of causes. I am not a doctor, nutritionist, or pedigreed health […]
- [#IVFContest Winners or Losers](https://hasidah.org/ivfcontest-winners-or-losers/): A recent article published had strong criticism of an IVF clinic’s video contest. “[W]ho would use the pain of infertility as an advertising tool?” the author asks.  Infertility is a painful process and “fundraising” through a video can certainly feel demeaning and demoralizing. If done right, videos can grow awareness, however that is not the goal of the contestants. The goal is a free IVF cycle i.e. money. This very type of fundraising was a major reason why Hasidah was founded. We want to eliminate the proverbial bake sales and the painful pitches – the salt on the wound. For […]
- [#Reprotravel and the World of Infertility](https://hasidah.org/reprotravel-and-the-world-of-infertility/): Pack your bags! Is it the beach, the mountains, the slopes, the amusement park, or the ranch? Maybe the spa? How about the clinic… More and more people are traveling to seek medical treatment and infertility is no exception at all. Someone recently asked us about infertility in the US and around the world and how much travel people do for treatment. Considering there is no international data collection, it is difficult to answer. However, a recent article came out exploring that very question. Here are some facts about ReproTourism around the world. Belgium – first for their invention of […]
- [Building Infertility Support with @AmericanJewishU @HUCJIR and AJR.](https://hasidah.org/building-infertility-support-with-americanjewishu-hucjir-and-ajr/): Rabbi Idit Solomon presented at Hebrew Union College – Jewish Institute of Religion, American Jewish University and the Academy for Jewish Religion in Los Angeles this week. Part of Hasidah’s mission is to build a robust network within the Jewish community to provide support for people throughout their fertility journey. Clergy and communal professional leaders play a critical role in building awareness and inclusion and being a source of support and resources when people face difficult times. The seminars helped  future rabbis, cantors, chaplains and faculty gain awareness about infertility and develop skills for providing people experiencing infertility and fertility […]
- [Surrogacy and Adoption](https://hasidah.org/surrogacy-and-adoption-2/): Hasidah’s Rabbi Idit Solomon served as one of the advisers for G-dcast’s  latest life cycle video: Questions about Jewish Adoption and Surrogacy G-dCast’s mission in producing the video: Making a path towards parenting easier on everyone, this animated short answers a few of the common Jewish questions about Adoption and Surrogacy. Thanks G-dCast for bringing awareness to this important issue!  
- [#10Days and #MenandInfertility](https://hasidah.org/10days-and-menandinfertility/): A couple very important articles have come up during the High Holidays featuring a topic in need of attention: Men and Infertility. So much attention is brought to women who experience infertility. In Jewish tradition, we hear about Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Hannah etc. We do not hear so much about the fertility challenges of Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Elkanah, etc. Temporary as it may be, it is usually the women’s burden to bare. But men face fertility challenges and infertility too. One voice is not more important than another. All perspectives need to be at the table. So during the #10Days […]
- [#10Days of #FertileThoughts](https://hasidah.org/10days-of-fertilethoughts/): The #10Days between Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year) and Yom Kippur (Day of Atonement) are a period of reflection on our lives, our mistakes and our challenges. Yom Kippur challenges us to consider ways in which we missed our potential. These #10Days call to mind the 10 days (sometimes 2 weeks) spent post infertility treatment procedure waiting for the pregnancy test. They can go quickly or they can be excruciating. As they continue on, some may begin to question everything and worry.  The not knowing. The wishing there was one more thing that could have been done. Mor waiting. Second […]
- [Who Is The Parent?](https://hasidah.org/who-is-the-parent/): A recent article in the NY Post shows the growing legal complications of assisted reproductive technologies when it involves third party parenting.  The focus is on same sex couples and specifically when the relationships break up. Ironically the gender bias for custody is complicated if not ironically gone. The child traditionally going to the mother? Not so fast! Which one?  Which dad? The legal situation of custody can get more complicated when 4 people are claiming parenting rights. While the focus on same sex couple is warranted, the article is correct in saying the legal outcomes will influence heterosexual couples […]
- [When Famous People Share About Fertility Issues](https://hasidah.org/when-famous-people-share-about-fertility-issues/): Breaking news in the infertility and pregnancy loss world: Mark Zuckerberg announced that he and his wife Pricilla Chan are expecting a baby girl after having endured three miscarriages. Almost unanimous support came pouring out for their impending parenthood and for their speaking out on the issue. The story has been getting traction across the media world from CNN Money, and Forbes (with an amazing list of stories to share) to Time (focusing on men!). And there are many more. A couple of these articles cite a research study that indicates 28 percent of women who had experienced a miscarriage […]

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- [Resources](https://hasidah.org/clients/): Are you experiencing infertility? Get the support you need for wholeness and connection while navigating your family building experience. HASIDAH’s IVF GRANTS Applications Available Now FAQs ⟶ Welcome We are glad you are here. Really. Facing setbacks to having children can come with losses, decisions, expectations and hope. The outcomes are uncertain and for some people it is an isolating experience. The one thing you can control is how you move through the experience and how you take care of yourself. Hasidah is here to help you with that. So it’s good you are here. Financial Aid Donate Resource Center […]
- [Z Peer Support](https://hasidah.org/peersupport/): Peer Support Share, learn, and connect Peer Groups Donate Personal Connections Donate On Line Groups Donate Donate Donate REGISTER FOR PEER SUPPORT PROGRAMS ⟶ PEER GROUPS Primary Meet Up Connect with other people experiencing infertility. The topic of the meetup is guided by the interests of the group and include issues like dealing with friends and family, planning for upcoming decisions, and self care. Bay Area In Person Meet Up Infertility is isolating enough, but the Bay is big. Time is short. In person… it’s been a while. We look forward to being able to connect live, in person soon! […]
- [Book Purchase](https://hasidah.org/clients/book/): Book Purchase A resource for the entire experience Hasidah has a limited number of first edition hardback copies of the groundbreaking book Tears of Sorrow, Seeds of Hope. This book is the first and only book dedicated to addressing various issues with Jewish infertility and pregnancy loss. Donate Online Form – Book OrderPowered by Formstack Ready To Help? Build Jewish Families DONATE ⟶
- [What We Do](https://hasidah.org/about-us/what-we-do/): What we Do Programs and Services Hasidah is closing. For the JewishStork’s final “flight,” IVF grants will be available until funds are depleted. On-line resources are always available. Financial Aid Support Resource Center Financial Aid Most people buy cars and many are able to afford a house, but they don’t pay for them out of pocket or in advance. Raising children is an expensive proposition too. The Jewish community offers financial aid and scholarships for preschool, camps, day schools, trips to Israel and more. The reality for people who need IVF is that being fruitful is expensive. Dealing with infertility […]
- [Resource Center](https://hasidah.org/clients/resources/): Resource Center Support for the mind body & soul Spiritual Guides Donate For Holidays Donate General Donate Loss Donate Click for Referral Page (Other Jewish organizationss, Bay Area orgs, educational links & Jewish egg donor options) Spiritual Guides Donate SPIRITUAL GUIDES READINGS, MEDITATIONS, ETC. Decision Making Guide Managing the Waiting A Prayer Before Starting IVF A Prayer Before Fertility Procedures Symbols and Seders: Foods and Fertility Blessings Infertility Speaks – An imagined biblical support group Flow – After Getting Your Period Blessing on learning of Pregnancy Blessing for a newborn after infertility or Loss For Holidays For Holidays High Holidays […]
- [Application](https://hasidah.org/financial-aid/apply/): APPLICATION Now Accepting IVF Grant Applications Sign up for the Hasidah Support Resources newsletter for reminders and updates. ** STOP ** Have you read about the criteria, the process and the FAQs yet? Only proceed if the answer is yes. Do not submit an application If: You have an IVF procedure scheduled to start. Call Hasidah first. 415.323.3226. Your clinic is not SART certified (Confirm here at SART). Your clinic may be excellent, however, we only use certified clinics to ensure that the IVF adheres to known standards. You have another child or frozen embryos. You live in a location […]
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- [Financial Resources](https://hasidah.org/financialaid/): financial Resources Finding Financial Aid and Reducing Costs MORE RESOURCES 26 WAYS TO FUND FERTILITY TREATMENTS​ (Download) Jewish Funding Organizations Hebrew Free Loan Associations – many Hebrew/Jewish Free Loan Associations around the country offer interest free loans for family building. Some have dedicated loan programs Hebrew Free Loan International Feit4Kidz – Los Angeles MakingMiracleBabies – Miami Fertility Treatment Loans– New York Family Fertility Fund – Philadelphia Adoption & Fertility Loans – San Francisco Fertility Grants (please note that Hasidah does not fund in communities with other Fertility grant opportunities) Jewish Fertility Foundation – Atlanta, Birmingham, Cincinnati, Denver, Washington DC, Pittsburg, […]
- [Resource Center OLD](https://hasidah.org/clients/resourcecenterold/): resource center Support for the Mind, Body & Soul Spiritual Guides Holiday Readings General Resources Loss & Coping Spiritual Guides Spiritual Guide, Readings, Meditations, etc. Making Decisions – a Guide Managing the Waiting A Prayer Before Starting IVF A Prayer Before a Fertility Procedure Symbols and Seders: Foods and Fertility Blessings Infertility Speaks – An imagined biblical support group Blessing on learning of A pregnancy Blessing for a newborn after infertility or Loss More coming soon! Holiday Readings For Holidays High Holidays Coping During the High Holidays For the Days of Awe Hearing in Our Hearts – Hannah’s Prayer Tashlich […]
- [Contact Us](https://hasidah.org/contact-us/): contact us We Want To Hear From You   If you have questions about the IVF grants program, please read the FAQ page first. If you want to apply for an IVF grant, please contact us using one of the methods below and include you location and phone number in your message.   (415) 323-3226 info@hasidah.org P.O. Box 9531Berkeley, CA 94709   You are important to us and the message you send will get a response. Please be patient as we have a small staff and it may take a day or so to reply. Thank you for understanding. HASIDAH […]
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- [Z Annual Report](https://hasidah.org/annual-report/): Annual Report 2021 Thank You Shifra and Puah were the midwives in Egypt that helped the Israelite women deliver babies despite Pharaoh’s edict to kill the first born boys. Indeed, many obstacles have stood in the way of the Jewish people growing their families – from Pharoah to infertility and now COVID. Many people facing infertility had treatments halted, experienced illness and had to recover, lost income etc. You became the Shifras and Puahs of today, continuing to support people facing barriers to parenthood despite no galas or other in person gatherings. Thanks to your support, Hasidah’s IVF grants and […]
- [High Holiday Resources](https://hasidah.org/clients/clergy/high-holiday-resources/): HIGH HOLIDAYS Resources For Clergy & Spiritual Care Providers Preparing for the High Holidays with (in)fertility in mind   The High Holidays (HHD) are filled with themes and traditions connected to birth and fertility – celebrating the birth of the world,  the story of the birth of Isaac, and traditions of celebrating babies born in the past year.  This focus provides opportunities to build awareness, but can also be challenging for someone facing family building challenges. Here are some sermon ideas you can utilize to build awareness and sensitivity about infertility issues. Hannah’s prayer for a child as the basis […]
- [Z Education and Advocacy](https://hasidah.org/education/): EDUCATION & ADVOCACY Bringing Awareness and Fostering Support Coming Soon… Training & Care Read More > Rabbinic Resources Read More > Holiday Resources Read More > General Materials Read More > BROCHURE, HANDOUTS, SIGNAGE, ETC. In addition to people facing infertility themselves, parents, friends and other can benefit from learning about resources in the Jewish community. Contact ariel@hasidah.org and get brochures, postcards, bulletin signs mailed to you or similar information for newsletters, websites and social media. TEXT STUDY GUIDES In addition … SERMON SAMPLES Link Link HOLIDAY RESOURCES Link Link Passover Resources Mi Sh’berakh for Fertility Journeys Passover and Infertility […]
- [ZArchive Israel Bonds](https://hasidah.org/israel-bonds/): donating israel Bonds To Hasidah Partnership We are very excited about the partnership between Hasidah and the Development Corporation for Israel/Israel Bonds organization.  This is a great opportunity for you to simultaneously support Hasidah and the State of Israel, by buying an Israel bond and donating it to Hasidah.  This relationship will enhance Hasidah’s ability to participate and partner in the top events Israel Bonds presents and raise needed funds for Hasidah. In case you’re not familiar with Israel Bonds, the organization is a 70 year old broker-dealer established three years after Israel’s founding, to raise capital for the economic […]
- [Repro Shabbat](https://hasidah.org/repro-shabbat/): REPRO SHABBAT Reproductive Freedom Reproductive Freedom is being able to HAVE a baby! Hasidah is joining with National Council of Jewish Women for Repro Shabbat. Reproductive freedom is often hyper focused on access to abortion. Abortion is an important issue and Judaism even requires it at times making it an issue worth addressing. Another important issue is the larger issue of true reproductive freedom and justice. That is access to care that supports the ability to choose when and how many children to have. Note – to have. Not just prevent. To have. Many of the laws that seek to […]
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- [In Their Own Words](https://hasidah.org/about-us/in-their-own-words/): in their own words Hasidah Client Testimonials Both Benji and I have always wanted to have kids, and we tried on and off for several years…We have been looking forward to becoming Jewish parents even as we stood under the chuppah with a special tallis made by my mother and aunt to be used at our special life-cycle events…Since we decided to be open about our experience, many of our friends have shared their infertility journeys. It has been very gratifying to help dispel the stigma surrounding infertility and the support that comes from having a community support you…We learned […]
- [Subscribe](https://hasidah.org/subscribe-2/): SIGN UP Get News & Updates Enter Your Info & SIGN UP GET INVOLVED! Thank you for you interest to get involved! Here are some ideas of things you can do: Tell you story. This is so important for removing stigma and isolation! We are happy to post stories to our blog and our newsletter to help people see the faces of infertility. Share about Hasidah programs or grant cycles on social media. Post about infertility on social media. Help coordinate a local event. Tell your rabbi or community leaders about Hasidah. Share support materials with friends or clergy. Be […]
- [Referrals](https://hasidah.org/clients/referrals/): Fertility support orgs Additional Support & Educational Resources JEWISH SUPPORT ORGANIZATIONS I Was Supposed to Have A Baby – Awareness and emotional support Jewish Fertility Foundation – Financial and emotional support JScreen – Jewish genetic screening information and kits. Mayyim Hayyim – Mikveh with support resources for infertility. Nechama Comfort – Support for miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss Puah Institute – Supervision, counseling, and education. The Eden Center – Mikveh with support resources for infertility. Chizuk – Infertility support group for Jewish women. Email chizukmiami@yahoo.com for information. Fruitful– Arizona Based community, education, and emotional support Uprooted – Awareness and emotional […]
- [Frequently Asked Questions](https://hasidah.org/financial-aid/faqs/): faqs Answers to your most frequently asked application questions General Financial Medical Personal Introduction to Hasidah Grants and Loans Hasidah grants and interest free loans provide funding for in vitro fertilization (IVF) and related expenses (e.g. PGD, ICSI) for necessary infertility treatment.  Hasidah does not proscribe an exact amount for grants or loans, but they typically run between $5,000 and $10,000. The program is run based on the availability of funds and funding is not guaranteed to all applicants. Our awards take into consideration financial need, medical need, and the how the applicants align with our mission to build Jewish […]
- [Clergy](https://hasidah.org/clients/clergy/): clergy education, Advocacy & Resources for Support Clergy are on the front lines of Jewish life. How you speak about family building and the care you provide to people facing family building obstacles sets the tone in Jewish community life. You are a doorway for people to come through when they need help and a microphone for advocacy and sensitivity. Support for your Community Education & Advocacy Holiday Resources Build Awareness Supporting for your Community Pastoral Care Resources for Infertility & Loss Infertility: When the Rabbi Is Pregnant Prayer When a Loss is Coming Mi-Sh’berakh for an Infertility Experience Blessing […]
- [Leadership](https://hasidah.org/about-us/leadership/): HASIDAH’S LEADERSHIP Board Of Directors Donate JENNIFER BLUMENFELD Read Jen’s Bio > Jen is a Bay Area native who has always engaged in the Jewish community from a position of lay leadership. From helping build the foundation of the Mission minyan and carrying it forward, to membership committees and pre-school outreach at her synagogue, Jen focuses her free time to building Jewish community. She has a background in fashion design and business and currently leads business development for a chocolate store on San Francisco’s Pier 39. Jen is deeply committed to Hasidah’s mission after having lived through the pain of […]
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- [About Us](https://hasidah.org/about-us/): About us An Introduction to Hasidah Mission & Vision Donate MISSION Hasidah is the voice of hope and compassion that raises awareness of infertility, provides emotional and spiritual care, and reduces financial barriers to treatment in the Jewish community. VISION Hasidah strives for: More Jewish babies in the United States Awareness about infertility and its affects on individuals and the Jewish community Jewish resources to support people dealing with infertility Affordable access to IVF and related technologies to build Jewish families VALUES FAMILY (Mishpacha) Family is the core source of strength for Jewish community and life. LOVING-KINDNESS (Hesed) Treating clients, […]


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